My Cute Lil' Bro Country DudeI did it! I finally went on a date this winter! (So much for my 12 dates of Christmas!) I'm telling you, it is SUPER hard to get someone to meet you in real life these days. I had to put on my dating profile "Only swipe right if you can meet RIGHT now." And of course it took 3 days for one person to finally meet. But it happened! Woo!
This guy, we'll call him Bro Country. Yep. I totally went on a date with a Bro Country guy. And I Kiiiiinda liked it. Don't judge. ;) I also kiiinda hated it. Jury is still out. Lately I've been trying really hard not to judge a book by its cover. I mean, obviously I still want to be attracted to someone when going out with them. But I'm trying not to be too picky for an initial date because people can surprise you. So Bro Country is 30 years old. Which is a little younger than I'd like to date, but he's also old enough to potentially be in a spot where he know whats he wants, so I'm open to it. It seems that the guys in the range I'm hoping to date have kids, and maybe divorced a time or two. Not that it's the end of the world, but I prefer to start a family with someone who isn't jaded to the whole idea already which is what I generally find with divorced single dads (no offense to the non jaded awesome single dads out there! ;) ) Last night I met BC at a dive bar close to my house. I really liked that he was down for that and actually suggested it. He knew I'd been driving around all day and caught in a bunch of traffic for work, so he suggested a spot RIGHT by me. On my way to the dive bar I got a notification on my phone that Donald Trump was getting impeached. As I pulled into the parking lot, I read a little about it before going in to meet my date. Then I took one last glance at BC's profile online to make sure I got his name right, and most importantly his face right. As I looked as his profile I realized that his account wasn't verified. So for added safety I grabbed my leatherman tool out of my back seat and put it in my back pocket. I practiced getting the knife part out too. Better safe than sorry! As I sat at the bar and ordered my first drink, BC came in. Great big smile. Broad shoulders. Bro looked like he worked out. But not too bro-ey... but almost too bro-ey lol. His smile WAS really cute. It got me. Nothing better than a good smile (besides a good... well never mind. ;) ) He was a gentleman off the bat and made sure the bartender knew that my drinks were on him. Good man. We had good conversation. Nothing mind shattering. He told me about some of his goals. He's trying to get in the army at 30. Works in construction now (sexy)... love a man that works with his hands and sweats a lot. lol. And this is bad, but I can't remember what he said he went back to school for... oh wait. Criminal justice! That's right. He's trying to get into the army's police force I think. Or something like that. Interesting. Funny enough, I was picturing him in a uniform as he was telling me this story. It looked good. ;) With all of that, he might be gone in June. Interestingly enough, this was NOT a turn off. It was more of a safety net. The commitment-phobe in me LOVED that there's an easy out 6 months down the road. :) Takes a lot of pressure off things. But then also it's an exciting gamble! What if he stays and its a great 6 months? So many possibilities. Fun! We had good conversation and then we moved our bar stool date to the pool table. He said he sucked and then shot like his first 7 balls in! I was like dayum! But then, somehow I followed that and did just about the same thing. He ended up scratching on the 8 ball when I only had 1 ball left. So it was a good close game. I won the 2nd game but barely. We both sucked that game and took us forever to finish. I was starting to feel the drink I was drinking towards the end of the date because I noticed I was blabbing. Also, I noticed during the date that I stumbled on a few words. Mostly because I was actually attracted to BC. Funny how that works. At the end of the night he walked me to my car and grabbed me by my hand. He had nice strong man hands. It made me feel secure. I liked it. No kiss goodnight. I probably wouldn't have said no if he tried. But it's always good to have a little more to go off of before you have a first kiss. Oh and the reason I'm calling him BC (Bro Country) in the first place is because he actually likes bro country music. We bonded over that. There's just something so sexy about a man that appreciates the same music as you. He kind of looks like a bro too. Great smile. Nice Style. Broad shoulders. ha ha. Aaaand. I have a feeling he might like Donald Trump. :( I could tell he was strategically avoiding the subject all night. But that's something I'm willing to find out on a second date. Speaking of 2nd date. When he got home he messaged me and said he'd love to go out again. And then ACTUALLY suggested a date on the calendar for it. Men, take notes. He didn't say, "wanna hang out sometime?" But he actually suggested the date on the calendar. Love that. So even though he might come across as a little bro-ey and there's a slight chance he likes Donald Trump (please say it isn't so!)... I'm looking forward to exploring if there's more chemistry there or not. Should be fun! Woo! An actual successful date! Not bad, world! Oh, he suggested Sunday but I'll be wine tasting with my family that day. Hopefully it doesn't get too crazy that day and works out, but if not, to be continued how it plays out... :)
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BE YOUR CRAZY SELFWell, I’m still single. Womp womp. I had a really exciting encounter though In REAL life NOT from online… It was a little over a month ago. I was working on a film project with some friends and this guy kind of came up out of nowhere. I had met him once before on a project but thought he was kind of quiet and wasn’t even sure if he liked me as a person. I had zero romantic interest. This last time we worked together something felt different though. We had fun banter that by the end of the weekend turned very flirty. “You’re devastatingly charming” he would say to me. And, “If you keep that up I’m going to propose to you.” He was sending the vibes and I was receiving them if ya know what I mean.? 😉 lol After we wrapped the project we went out to a bar as a group. We had drinks and played darts and the flirtation continued. I felt very comfortable with him and had fun playing darts and brushing hands on each others backs, etc. At the end of the night he gave me his number and I called him right away to make sure he had my number. We said goodnight. It was a very fun flirt! I was feeling very excited and I haven’t felt that in a long time. He seemed like a great guy. We have mutual friends. We have a lot in common. He felt respectful. It was what could potentially be a good start to something. We’ll call him, Camera Guy. I had a date planned the next weekend with someone else though. I was somewhat excited about this date until I met, Camera Guy. Then all I could think about was how I preferred the date to be with Camera Guy. But, as my friends suggested I needed to see this date through and keep my options open in case Camera Guy turned out to be a dud. I agreed. It was best to see this through. The following weekend we had our film screening. I hadn’t heard much from Camera Guy during the week but he did send me a picture text from Halloween in Seattle and we kept it light. I was cool with that. A bunch of us met up early for the screening for a drink and me and Camera Guy stayed behind for a drink together. It was a great time. We went over to the theater and found a seat and ended up getting snuggly and more flirty and I just felt really comfortable again, and was letting loose having a great time being in the moment. As we left for the night he walked me to my car and kissed me. It was awkward. I went in for a 2nd kiss hoping it would be better, but was almost more awkward lol. Shoot! I still felt like there was potential though. We texted that night after we got home and he was telling me how amazing I was etc. As the week went on, I figured I’d hear from Camera Guy if he was as interested in me as he seemed, but I didn’t hear anything. Something felt off. He seemed super into me in person, but then it was radio silence. I asked a couple of friends if that was weird. And eventually decided to make sure I wasn’t playing games and gave him an opening. I decided to reach out and text him. He texted back, but it was short and took him a long time to reply. Even a day later one of the times. At this point, I’m feeling disappointed. And disappointed in men in general. Why go out of your way to make a girl feel special just to let her down? So frustrating and disrespectful. Turns out as I had to find out from a mutual friend, that he had just gotten out of a serious relationship the weekend before we worked together. UGGGHHH. So annoying that he wouldn’t tell me that. And that I was being used as a rebound. My gut was telling me something was off when he wasn’t as interested outside of in person, and my gut was right. Trust your gut ladies. And dudes, be more respectful of women and their time/emotions. Just be up front. End rant. 😊 Mooooving on… I’ve been back online dating on Bumble. It’s a tough world out there. I’ve met a few people in person. I was at the coast a couple of weeks ago for work and met a guy for dinner before driving home. Trying to be spontaneous. I thought maybe I’d get a room that night if things went well and spend the next day with him… but the second he opened his mouth I knew I wanted to leave as soon as possible. He was just really dorky and there’s no way I would have ever considered a date with him in real life. So, good for him. His pictures didn’t look bad, but you just can’t tell the way someone is in person by a picture. They can be the most awkward person in the world, or the most charming person in the world and you’d never know until you meet. Pictures can be deceiving. The other night I met this really cute guy online. He was a dad of a toddler and said he wanted more kids. Score! Had a huge bright smile and just seemed really fun. He was from the Dalles, so it was going to be tough to meet for coffee. He suggested that we facetime. I thought that was a really genius idea. Why not?! We scheduled to “meet” when I got off work. I called him via facetime and when he answered something felt off. Turns out he had been day drinking all day. Red Flag, BUT I thought it was funny and he still seemed cool. We chatted about anything and everything for a few hours. It was really fun! But by the last hour he was telling me how he always chats for girls for a few hours and then they never call him back. Asking me what he would have to do different to get me to call him back. Then, he kept telling me how beautiful I looked and how he wished he looked better and kept trying to find a different angle on the phone. It was a huge turnoff. He was SO insecure. Which was too bad because he seemed to be a good catch! The next day I texted him and let him know that my gut was telling me that I just wanted to be friends. He said no problem and I didn’t hear back. I thought that was the correct reply. About 5 hours later I got a text from him telling me my gut was wrong and that he felt otherwise. I contemplated this, because I really did have a nice chat with him other than the insecure red flags at the end of the conversation. I told him I’d be willing to meet him in person to see if there was a connection, but that wasn’t good enough for him. He proceeded to tell me how lame I was for that and that I needed to commit to only seeing him, etc. I haven’t even met this dude and he was going off on me about how he was trying to “win” me back. Dude, you never HAD me to win me back lol. It ended up being a shit show so I just couldn’t deal and I blocked him. Some of y’all are real crazies out there. Ha ha. But you know the weird part? I would prefer a little crazy then no emotions at all and being fake. Be your crazy authentic selves. It’s refreshing… just don’t be too crazy! 😉 Moral of the story… keep trusting your gut. It wasn’t wrong. It’s never wrong. 😊 Love HardIt's now been a couple weeks since the infamous kiss with my good friend of 10 years. Everyone and their mom was shipping this relationship. We both went out of town for a while on family trips and TBH the last couple weeks have been super awkward. To go from kissing one day, and then two plus weeks go by. In the middle of the two weeks of not seeing each other, I managed to have a booty call with an old fling. If that's not a sign of a bad match, I'm not sure what is. lol
We scheduled a day hike to catch up. I didn't know what the day would hold. Maybe I'd see him and be like, omg you're my person. Or maybe I'd see him and be like, wtf did I do? ha ha. It wasn't quite as bad as the 2nd... but my gut was definitely speaking to me. You know that moment on the bachelor or bachelorette when there is a one-on-one date and they have a really fun adventurous day date, and then they change and get ready for dinner where they can finally have a serious talk? Usually the person who isn't the bachelor/bachelorette is the one that has something revealing from their past they want to tell the bachelor. Something that's quite vulnerable to tell to a special love interest. And something that you would only want to reveal if the risk was worth it. I had my aha moment on this hike. There was no way I could see myself feeling vulnerable enough to ever want to reveal my full heart with my friend. I may appear very strong on the outside, but inside I have a very delicate heart that craves a fierce love. A fence jumping love. An I would walk to the ends of the earth for you love. And although there is much love between my friend and I, it is not that kind of love. It was a freeing revelation. A giant elephant was lifted off of my chest. Yet another small one was put there in it's place. It's like taking 1 step forward but two steps back. It's great to know that there will no longer be any "what if's" in the back of my mind. But at the same time, that means I'm one step further away from finding my person. My friend thinks this will bring us closer, I fear it will do the opposite. I already feel myself detaching. Life is a crazy, beautiful, wild ride and we never know where it will lead us. Love hard with the ones you love. I'm looking forward to what the next chapter holds. My heart is open to whatever comes its way. xoxo. 10 Dates or 10 years? Earlier this summer I had a good friend tell me some advice about dating. He's been married for many years and said this advice has helped a lot of people he knows in this crazy dating world we live in. The advice was to wait 10 days of seeing someone before deciding if you want to kiss them or not. We all know we've been really into someone date one and decide to kiss them, only to realize later they're kind of a piece of crap but we ended up hanging around them a lot longer than we should have because we were clouded by infatuation by kissing them. And of course the opposite can happen. Date one they're in the friend zone, but maybe by date 10 something substantial has built up and you might get a pleasant surprise when you kiss them!
Recently, I went on Bumble and decided to try out the 10 date rule and just see how it goes. Whatever I've done before has not worked in the past, so it's worth a shot. First guy I meet, we'll call him, Leo. Leo because we were both only about a week apart in birth and hence, both Leos in astrology. Leo was super cute! Met him at a dive bar for a drink a couple weeks ago. Told him about the 10 date rule and he was on board. I didn't feel the need to kiss him date one though, despite him being cute. Next night I met up with another guy for a drink. We'll call him BB King. lol. BB are his initials so BB King works for me! This guy is a tall drink of water. Pretty hot actually. Like, from the pictures, kind of out of my league. Even cuter in person. Whoo-wee. Charming smile. Wants kids. 6ft plus. Fun conversation. Held my hand on a walk after drinks. Just feeling really fun. I also told him about the 10 date rule thing and he was 100 percent on board with this idea. I was feeling really into BB King but I already had a 2nd date planned with Leo, so wanted to see that through. Leo and I went to the Brewfest on the water front. It was a blast. Tasted some fun beers. Had really good, easy conversation. But I didn't feel it was right to continue to see Leo, when I was clearly more into BB King. So after our 2nd date I bid him farewell. For our 2nd date, BB King actually went out to drinks with me and a few of some of my greatest friends of all time. I feel like having someone meet your closest friends is a really good test run to see how they would do. He handled himself really well. Was super fun, and then we followed up the evening with some good conversation on our own. Date 3 we meet up for live music in the park. It was super cute. We danced a little and walked on the water front a little. And again, he was super cute and charming and I was really into him. Wanted to kiss him for sure to see if there was sparks. But, we promised to hold off so we did. Date 4 I meet him by his work after work for the Ape Caves. This was a super cool date. I was impressed. Spelunking and crawlin through a cave. Totally my kind of thing! But for some reason on this date the sparks didn't seem as alive to me. And by the end of the night when we hugged goodbye it was pretty lack-luster. I can't pinpoint exactly what went wrong, but that just something wasn't quite right. He had guns in his trunk from the weekend before, and guns are a huge turn off for me. I just don't like to be around them. But, if that's your thing, I try really hard to understand that and if you're safe, then go for it. I just want children someday, and I don't like the ideas of guns being part of the lifestyle. It also sounded like he didn't have the greatest relationship with his family, and that's a really hard one for me to get past. Family is SO important to me and it's values I want to share and I just really want to share a life with someone who also has a good family support around them. Again, none of these are deal breakers. Just things to think about. Like I said, nothing specific happened bad on this date, just wasn't really feeling it for whatever reason. I like to trust my gut in these situations because the 2nd I don't, I usually regret it. Close friends that met him convinced me to give it date 5. I could tell though, that BB King didn't seem to be as into the date either. Like we must have both felt the same thing for whatever reason. And he was out of town a lot. And out of town on my birthday and so we were planning something for the next night (tonight) only to cancel it because it's his moms birthday. I kind of feel like me and BB King are cancelled too. :/ Rewind to this past weekend. Oregon Jamboree music festival. Having the time of my life. Totally hooked up with a long lost love that I shouldn't be hooking up with... whoops. But there's just so much love there, but also not good for me. gah! But then there's this other thing that's been happening kind of out of my control for the last several months. For some reason, I started seeing my best friend differently. This is a (guy) friend whom I've shared so many fun times with over the past 10 years and never once wanted to make a move or wanted him to make a move. We'll call him Lil' BFF. But something this year switched in me a little bit. Our relationship started to feel a little different and I found myself wondering the possibilities of that, but also very scared to make a move because he's literally the best human I know. Nothing is worth losing that. But you know me, I like to be bold and life is way too short not to be! So yesterday at my birthday shindig, I made it very clear that I was making a move. lol. I was the birthday girl so I do what I want. He didn't seem to be mad about my move making, so that was fun. Gah, I just love him so much. Not even in the romantic way, because that's just way too new of a feeling. But I just deeply love him and care about him in all the best human ways one can. I told him to take me home that night, and he obliged. And then you know, we kissed for the first time ever and cuddled and pretty much stayed up until the sun came up. And it was really really sweet and gentle and loving and it just made me feel really loved. Even if that's all that ever is, it was worth it. :) My life: To be continued... On The ROad again...I'm on the road again! Currently I'm sitting on one of two Queen beds at Hawthorn Suites by Wyndham in Sacramento, Ca. I left at 10:30am yesterday morning from Portland. I rented a car because my car is two seconds from breaking down already. Eek! But the good news is I'm so happy to be on this trip solo. As a lot of you know, I landed an internship at London Alley Entertainment in Los Angeles, Ca over spring break. A huge music video production company that does music videos for Ariana Grande, Sam Hunt and the likes! I wanted to blog about my daily experiences because I know a lot of people are curious as to how the internship will go and what it will look like. Will it be glamorous? Will I meet a bunch of famous people who will take me under their wing and have me be their new music video director? Or will I just be an office bitch for a week and come home crying. lol. I'm guessing somewhere in between, but to be continued... ;)
As far as the journey so far, I was making really good time yesterday. I realized before I left that I needed to bring chains with me over the siskiyous pass. Woops. That didn't happen, but luckily the pass wasn't too bad. Snow hit my windshield for a few minutes over the highest point on I5, but otherwise was fine. The sun was shining a lot of the way. I had my windows cracked and the heat up! Fresh air feels so good while driving! I ended up texting my former professor from my first time in college. I went to College of the Siskiyous way back in the day. I remember that first drive I took to Weed, CA when I was 17. Ready to play college softball and stay out of trouble in a small town. Well I did one of those two things. lol ;) Lots of crazy memories happened in Weed. Including meeting one of my favorite people in the world; My communications professor Jayne Turk. She would go on to be one of my best friends and allies. She opened a restaurant that I worked at and I became tight with her children too. Over the years there have been visits. I've stayed with her family. Her family has stayed with mine. And even some Black Friday Shopping trips in between! When I stopped in, it was like no time had passed (even though it's been 15 years in total since we met shhh!) That was a great little visit. I'd guess I was at their house for maybe an hour. We chatted, reminisced. and she even made me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and sent me on the road. At this point I was feeling fresh and ready to conquer the rest of the drive. Although I wanted to be realistic. I thought I would probably stop in Sacramento. As I was 10 minutes from the city center I pulled into a rest stop to book a hotel online. Unfortunately that was a pain. Every room I was trying to book would be be taken by the time I got my credit card info in. So I called expedia to book so they could do it for me. And then the same thing happened again! Son of a bitch! lol. It was frustrating, but at least fleeting. I called the hotel personally and they booked for me. Phew! Oh, and I forgot to mention I was definitely in a bigger city than I'd been in for a while. There was a dance party at the rest stop. Working at the Car Wash was playing, and folks were getting DOWN! ha ha. It made me smile. There may have been drugs involved in their good time though lol. So last night before going to bed I thought I would maybe have enough energy to meet someone at a bar across from my hotel. Cause why not?! I'm on vacation! So, I downloaded tinder, swiped a few times and next thing I know its 7am. lol. I totally passed out. Ha ha. It was a good thought! Now, I'm preparing to continue down south. I hope to leave by 10am and it's about a 7 hour drive I'd guess to LA. GPS says 5 1/2 but that's never the human time. I hope to do a blog post every night to fill you in on my adventures! Monday through Friday I'm interning and then I don't have to be back in Portland until Wednesday night the 3rd. So that's when the crazy adventures will begin, I imagine. But you never know with me! Stay tuned! Let's do the damn thing! xoxo TREAT YO SELF.Like a Super-moon, I think there's such thing as a Super-Ovulation. Seriously. And I'm right in the middle of it. I haven't had anything to report on my dating blog in 3 1/2 months. It's been 4 plus months since I ended my last relationship. Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper last night at the Oscars. Swoon! <3 All of the stars are aligned for Super-Ovulation! lol.
Anyway, you're wondering what this actually means? It means that while I have been swiping on dating apps for the last two days I've had ovulation goggles on. Every guy looks so much more attractive to me. I'm not annoyed. I've been thinking about all of my exes in the best ways possible. This has led to a little online stalking and reminiscing. When you have zero negative thoughts about any of your exes, you know somethin's up! :p All I've been day-dreaming about is being on a tropical vacation with a pina colada in hand and a sexy man (or men) catering to my every need. Maybe this is because it's the dead of winter and I like to think about this stuff this time of year, or maybe it's because I'm almost done with school! 4 months! That's how long I've been broken up and time flew! I'm hoping that right when I graduate I can sneak off on some type of magical adventure. Spain would be fun! I just want to go make out with a bunch of sexy men that don't speak the same language as me with no ragrets! ;) (Intentionally misspelled) But, as I haven't written on here in a while- it's for a reason. I've had zero love life for the past 4 months. I have not been on one date between then and now. There may have been a few flirtations along the way, but I am so career/school focused right now. Life is busy and fantastic with all of the video productions I've been able to be a part of and it doesn't seem to be slowing down any time soon. I'm in love with life right now! With how busy I've been, got me thinking... if Lumberjack and I would have stayed together I'd probably be pretty miserable. He was already unsatisfied with the amount of time I was able to give him and I felt like I was going above and beyond with the time I was able to give him considering I was a full time working student. And naturally I'm a people-pleaser. I want to make sure my man is feeling good and loved and wanted at all times, so if this isn't happening I feel like I've failed- and aint nobody got time for failure. But when I'm giving everything and then some and still being told I'm failing, that's probably not a healthy give and take relationship. Glad I can see that now, because honestly, last night's Gaga/Cooper performance really got me thinking about Lumberjack. I saw A Star is Born in the theaters with him, and I'm pretty sure it's actually that movie that made me fall in love with him. I wanted that to my love story so bad (minus the substance abuse)... but it just wasn't. Damn. Good news is, I'm really proud of all of my accomplishments thus far! I feel like I've grown and learned so much in this past year and I have so many more milestones to hit and much more to learn. I can't wait to see what the future holds. As far as dating goes. It's tough. I want to find time. I want my crazy hopeless romantic love story. I want to be swept off my feet. But I'm kinda kicking ass at sweeping me off my own feet at the moment. I could at least use a good make out sesh soon though. Ha. #Human #TreatYoSelf #ToBeContinued... |
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