Tinder, OBGYN appt, and Pregnant?
It's been a hot minute since I've written you. And last you heard, "Cowboy" was reelin' me in. Well, today was a different story. I was in my OBGYN's lobby and 2 people asked me if I was pregnant. Ouch. The kicker is, I was swiping on Tinder as they asked me. Woops! I take that back, the actual kicker is that I was going in to talk to her about having my IUD removed. So does that mean that whoever I was swiping right to on Tinder at that moment was going to get me pregnant if I had my IUD removed? Lol. Maybe it was a warning sign from the high all mighty him/herself! Or maybe it was a sign that mister right was being swiped on in that moment! Cause honestly, that scenario wouldn't be so bad! I like babies. I want babies. I had a hard time not saying, "I wish" when asked.
The crazy part about being asked if I was pregnant twice today is that I literally have never been asked that before in my life. And here I was being asked twice in a matter of minutes. I know that it doesn't seem that crazy to be asked while hanging out in your OBGYN's lobby. I'm just hoping I had a "glow" to me which is why they asked, and not a food baby lol. Or Beer baby. ha ha.
It was weird though, I ran into a guy in what appeared to be construction gear at the elevator and as I pushed the button to go up, he says to me, "Story of my life. Every time I run into a pretty girl we're going opposite ways." Kind of took me by surprise that he said that but I awkardly fumbled on my words trying to tease him back.
Feeling safe once I reached my OBGYN's office, a couple minutes later he comes in and says, "wow. So we meet again!" And then he talked to some people at the front desk and as he left he looked at me and said, "congrats if you're pregnant." lol. Either I was looking extra bloated today or he had a really awkward way of finding out if I was single. lol. First time that line's been used!
Again, it doesn't seem too weird I was asked in my OBGYN's office that question. BUT, let me tell you. I've been seeing an OBGYN annually for about 15 years now and sometimes more than annually for different reasons and in 15 years not ONCE was I asked this. And literally just minutes later I saw a young mom, her 3 month old baby, and the young mom's mother walk out and I asked a few friendly questions about the babe and said congrats. Like anybody would do. And the young mother's mom asked, "are you pregnant?" lol. I said, "not but you're actually the second person who's asked me that today!" omg! ha ha. She laughed and apologized and said, " that's probably not something I should be asking random people." I actually wasn't offended because I don't particularly feel fatter than normal today. If anything, I'm glowing because I'm so happy with the direction my life is going right now. Which is a really awesome thing to say. I'm LOVING going to school for video production. With all my heart. This. Is. My. Jam.
But I'm going to now address the question that you're all wondering... "I thought you weren't going to be on dating apps anymore?" Well, I'd really like to believe that. Because they can be SO time consuming and soul sucking and really disheartening at times. But I have a bad case of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)... that whole, "what if?" scenario plays through my mind a lot.
I'm really just too busy to be dating right now anyway. But that doesn't mean I don't want to be. And that doesn't mean I've lost all hope in online dating. It's like , some of my best friends have found their hubbies online, so if it can happen for them then it can happen for me too. Doesn't mean it will, but I'll never know. I've just decided to delete it when I'm not feeling it. And when I am feeling it and have some time to meet up I should turn it on. Plus the weather is getting nicer and it's just nice to have people to meet!
So, now that the air is cleared that I am back on dating apps. And this time it's Tinder instead of Bumble. I liked bumble before because the female is in control. But this time around because I'm so busy I actually don't have enough time to keep up with the rule you must message someone first within 24 hrs. It doesn't work for my schedule. And to be honest, I'm still a little old fashioned and it's attractive when a man it the pursuer. I can't shake that want. I know we're at a point where women should have equal rights, etc, and I think we should. But I still want a man to talk to me first, show interest, and pursue me. Take me out and treat me (at least in the beginning)... but I don't know, I always want to feel like my guy is "dating" me. Maybe that's not very 2018 of me, but I want the guy to always treat me when we're going out. Not that I won't go out of my way to treat him, and spoil him on occasion too. But there's something culturally about wanting that. Sorry if this offends anyone, but that's just the real non PC truth about how I feel. I'm not saying that it's right and that maybe I shouldn't try to work on not feeling that way, lol. But it's pretty ingrained in me. And gifts, I realized as much as I hate to admit it, are definitely one of my love languages. When a guy gets me something because he thought of me or it reminded him of me, or he knew I would love it... it makes me feel understood and appreciated and really warm and fuzzy. ha ha.
So now that you've learned a little tid-bit about one of my love languages, let me fill you in on Cowboy and my dating life. Well, Cowboy and I had a nice dinner. We met half way in Hood River which I was happy to do because I was that into him. And the fact that he offered to meet me closer to my end of town was nice. But for a first date I thought half way was appropriate. And since we'd driven so far away and had such a strong connection initially, I thought for sure we'd get dinner and then maybe get a drink, or ice cream or walk around or something! But, literally none of that happened. He was ready to go home. Well that was a bit of a bummer. And an unmet expectation which wasn't his fault necessarily, but still it was a turn off.
And since then, we've talked about hanging out and the two times I invited him to do something he's said he was going to come and was excited and then cancelled the first time because of an injury. Sprained his ankle and didn't want to walk around which is understandable. And the 2nd time he was a no call no show. Until the next day when I received a text that he was sorry and "apparently" couldn't handle his alcohol. And then I was reminded why women in their 30's don't date 27 year olds. lol. He's not a bad kid, but, he's a kid.
So there you have it folks, I'm single. On Tinder, but don't have time for it. Got asked if I was pregnant twice today and regretted it both times that I had to say no. Lol. I like being treated by my man and receiving gifts . Turns out I'm not pregnant, but they actually did find a cyst on my right ovary. Yay. (not) And cowboy is too young for me. But the good news is, I love going to school and the career path I'm on. And of course I am always and will forever be obsessed with my weenie Harrie! Much love! xoxo
Oh shoot. I forgot to update you on my other dates. I've been on 3 or 4 tinder dates so far. I don't remember any of their names and probably couldn't pick them out in a crowd. ha ha. That's all! :) I'll let you know if something juicy happens though, I promise! Muah!
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