Wine And Dine And T-Time...
Last night... oh last night... lol. First, when you start the day by waking up at 6am to go wine tasting with the family, you never know how your night is going to end up! My sister picked me up around 8am and I was feeling myself. Had my low cut top on with my nipple pasties underneath in case of an accidental slip or in case the temperature got too cold. Keeping it classy. ;) I showered and was all fresh. Just feelin real cute. Ready to mingle. It's funny though when you show up at 8am ready for date night just to meet the fam. The fam consists of all married couples (or practically married). Between me and my step sisters there's 6 sisters total (only 5 of us were there for this) plus my step mom an everybody's significant others. It really is a good time.
I wanted to pace myself as I knew I had a hot date that night with Bro Country so me and my sister decided to split our tastings and then we quit drinking all together by the last stop. On the way home, those of us who didn't split tastings were feeling pretty toasty and there was some mooning of cars, passing of wine in the car, and lots of singing of Christmas carols. Too funny. I love my family very much. Next year, we've decided to get matching Christmas Onesies for wine tasting!
After a full day of wine tasting and driving long hours in the back country on windy roads I was not feeling so fresh. In fact, the minute I got home I blew up the toilet. lol. Like my stomach was NOT well. Nothing to make you feel sexy like quadruple wiping your ass before a hot date and no time for a shower! lol.
Bro Country was being super cute and accommodating though. Was texting me a little throughout the day asking me how the trip was going and making sure I knew he was flexible with whatever time I got in and that we could change plans accordingly. He even offered to pick me up for the date which was really sweet! But at date 2 I'm still interested in driving myself.
We ended up deciding on a mini golf course pub in SE. It was super cute! I loved the idea... But I was also SO tired! I literally laid in bed for 10 minutes with my dog contemplating keeping my eyes closed for the rest of the night. BUT, I don't like wasting peoples times and I hate it when people don't respect mine, so that last thing I was going to do was cancel.
When I walked into the pub, I saw a bro dude at the bar. I thought to myself... "bro country wasn't THAT bro-ey." But then he turned around and it was him. lol. whoops. He really is clean cut and put together and off first glance you would think is likely a d-bag. But he's still sweet as ever. Through our conversations I never found out if he likes Trump, but he did squeeze in that he was in a fraternity (not surprising at all lol).
Again, we had some great conversation. I love that he is passionate about his goals and seems to really have a good head and heart on his shoulders. And he was still very attractive. We had fun playing mini golf and chatting. And it really was a good time. At the end of the night he kissed me a little bit. And it wasn't bad. But.... and this is the big but... something just isn't quite there. The excitement. The spark? I dunno. He's a really great guy and I don't see any flaws in him... I'm just not sure if I'm into him. I don't get giddy wanting to text him. I don't feel a big flirtation between us. But if I had a friend that wanted to date him, I would definitely recommend him. He's just a solid dude. Seems open minded. I'm just not quite sure what is off there? My gutt says something's off though. Maybe it's age? Like, we're just not quite at the same place in life? Maybe it's just that he doesn't seem all that exciting. But he's really sweet and I'll give him that. Sometimes people are great, but just not the one.
Do you all think I should go out with him one more time for another chance at a spark? Or do I just listen to that little voice in my gut that says, "great guy, but not the one." ?
I did it! I've now gone one 3 dates pretty much back to back to back. Verdict: Date 1 pretty solid. Date 2, nice guy but not that into him. And Date 3... pretty solid as well! I'm not quite sure I had as much of the physical primal attraction with date 3 that i had with date 1 but I wasn't not attracted to him. And I really liked talking to him. I feel like this one would be more of a slow burn, but a burn none the less! :)
To get into the details me and date 3, let's call him Outdoor Joe. (his name is not Joe)... but he loves to Hunt and Fish and explore outside and works for an outdoor tv show. We had quite a bit in common. His dating profile actually reminded me a lot of Garrett from the Bachelorette who ended up with Beka.
We matched on Bumble about a week ago and actually had decent conversation. Then we didn't talk for a couple days and I got annoyed that nobody could meet up and ended up deleting the app. Well, he popped up again today, so I swiped right again and just asked, "what are you doing right now?" He was finishing up work. I was finishing up work. So we got ready and we met at Kennedy School for a drink and a soak. F -yah! I did this for my birthday this summer. It's so freakin great. Soaking pool and a beverage is where it's at! We had our name on the wait list for the pool so we chatted for an hour in the first bar at the school. Before he came in I let the bartenders know a Bumble date was about to meet me and when he showed up I told my date that I had already told the bartenders. lol You know!? It's just easier to be open and honest about everything, amiright?
So we finally get called to the pool so we ordered one more and soaked for an hour. It was awesome. Talked a lot about our stories. He had this cute little accent cause he's from the midwest. Aww... Actually I think I'd rather call him Midwest Joe. That's cuter. Don't care that he's outdoorsy. I mean, I do... but the accent was cuter. ;)
Midwest Joe is not quite in a place where he wants to settle down though. Him and Bro Country both. That's what I get for dating these younger guys (he's 32). Guys MY age don't even want to commit! (eye roll)... that's pretty much what he said him and his last gf broke up over. Just not in the same spots. He wants to travel for work and doesn't like to stay in one place for more than 3 years... he's been in Portland for 2 now. So eh... BUT I'm also like, who knows where life will take you? There's no harm in getting to know people. They could have had other stuff that didn't match up too. Plus, even though I'm biologically ready to have children, I'm still happy exploring and traveling and what not too.
Basically Midwest Outdoor Joe was cute. I changed my mind again. Since I already named him Outdoor Joe that's what I keep wanting to type, so Outdoor Joe it remains. OJ... he he. That's bad and funny. Basically OJ was cute, had great conversation, had a lot in common. I'd probably see him again too. Nothing mind shattering again. No long lost love/lust connection bam sparks or anything, but seemed like a good dude that I could potentially see myself making out with sometime in the future. Jury is still out. Wow, two potentials so far. This is fun! And a little dangerous. I will have much better idea when I see Bro Country tomorrow how I feel about a 3rd date. If you make it past date 3 you're pretty much in. So may the odds be ever in their favor! :)
Made it on a 2nd date! Not with the same guy from date number 1 (Bro Country) but I would have probably had a more romantic time. Date number 2 we'll call him Weed Man (WM). I'm calling him Weed Man because he made it very clear on his profile he was in the weed business. Now, I'm not big on weed anything, but he was cute enough to at least meet. And remember, I'm trying to be more open minded... ESPECIALLY to the people who are just willing to meet right away!
Weed man and I met after I was done scouting a house and I was sweating balls. It was rainy yesterday but SUPER muggy! I had my winter outfit on but was pitting out big time. lol. In case you were wondering all that. ;) We met at Bar of the Gods. Had one drink there, played some pool (seems to be a recurring theme) and had good conversation. I liked him as a person right away. But just as fast as I liked him as a person, I wasn't feeling it romantically. And I could tell that he was, so it was a little awkward.
The date wasn't bad enough that I was trying to leave, but it wasn't good enough to want to stay. I WAS hungry though, so was down for some food with him. Oh and this time date, when we ordered our first drinks he said, "This one's on me." Which I thought was nice, but that also definitely implies that next ones on you. Totally fine. And I actually got his next drink and the meal we split. If I was feeling him though, I might have been a little disappointed that he wasn't treating me or courting me. I'm a little old school in that sense where for at least the first few dates I want to be courted.
Anyway, I used the out that I should probably get back home to my puppy. I stopped drinking at the first drink. He walked me to my car and grabbed me by the arm and tried to snuggle in. It felt almost like how a little child would snuggle up, which was not manly at all. Also, he was way smaller in person than he appeared online. Profile said he was 5'11" which is about the shortest I want to date (always exceptions to the rule to all you short awesome dudes out there lol)... but I'm pretty sure that was a stretch on his profile. He felt more like 5'9". SMH. Also, he was really scronny. I need a man with a little meat to dem bones!
So as he walked me to my car he was already talking about how fun our next date was going to be, which I made no indication that I was on board. I think he just assumed it. But I didn't want to be rude. It's super hard to let someone down when you can tell they're really excited and when they don't think that's going to happen.
We got to my car and he hugged me and I could tell he was going to go in for the kiss so I turned my cheek and we did the awkward he's trying to kiss me but please miss me dance. Then he looked deep into my eyes and there was no avoiding it.... he was going in. lol. Shoot! So I just gave him the ol' mom peck. ha ha. He texted me later that night about what an amazing time he had. I felt then was the best moment to tell him I had a nice time but not in a romantic way. Crickets. Oh well. On to the next!
And by next, I mean literally right now. Date #3... I'm on a roll. Wish me luck! And don't worry, I still have my 2nd date with Bro Country tomorrow and I'm excited about it! :)
My Cute Lil' Bro Country Dude
I did it! I finally went on a date this winter! (So much for my 12 dates of Christmas!) I'm telling you, it is SUPER hard to get someone to meet you in real life these days. I had to put on my dating profile "Only swipe right if you can meet RIGHT now." And of course it took 3 days for one person to finally meet. But it happened! Woo!
This guy, we'll call him Bro Country. Yep. I totally went on a date with a Bro Country guy. And I Kiiiiinda liked it. Don't judge. ;) I also kiiinda hated it. Jury is still out. Lately I've been trying really hard not to judge a book by its cover. I mean, obviously I still want to be attracted to someone when going out with them. But I'm trying not to be too picky for an initial date because people can surprise you.
So Bro Country is 30 years old. Which is a little younger than I'd like to date, but he's also old enough to potentially be in a spot where he know whats he wants, so I'm open to it. It seems that the guys in the range I'm hoping to date have kids, and maybe divorced a time or two. Not that it's the end of the world, but I prefer to start a family with someone who isn't jaded to the whole idea already which is what I generally find with divorced single dads (no offense to the non jaded awesome single dads out there! ;) )
Last night I met BC at a dive bar close to my house. I really liked that he was down for that and actually suggested it. He knew I'd been driving around all day and caught in a bunch of traffic for work, so he suggested a spot RIGHT by me. On my way to the dive bar I got a notification on my phone that Donald Trump was getting impeached. As I pulled into the parking lot, I read a little about it before going in to meet my date. Then I took one last glance at BC's profile online to make sure I got his name right, and most importantly his face right. As I looked as his profile I realized that his account wasn't verified. So for added safety I grabbed my leatherman tool out of my back seat and put it in my back pocket. I practiced getting the knife part out too. Better safe than sorry!
As I sat at the bar and ordered my first drink, BC came in. Great big smile. Broad shoulders. Bro looked like he worked out. But not too bro-ey... but almost too bro-ey lol. His smile WAS really cute. It got me. Nothing better than a good smile (besides a good... well never mind. ;) )
He was a gentleman off the bat and made sure the bartender knew that my drinks were on him. Good man. We had good conversation. Nothing mind shattering. He told me about some of his goals. He's trying to get in the army at 30. Works in construction now (sexy)... love a man that works with his hands and sweats a lot. lol. And this is bad, but I can't remember what he said he went back to school for... oh wait. Criminal justice! That's right. He's trying to get into the army's police force I think. Or something like that. Interesting. Funny enough, I was picturing him in a uniform as he was telling me this story. It looked good. ;)
With all of that, he might be gone in June. Interestingly enough, this was NOT a turn off. It was more of a safety net. The commitment-phobe in me LOVED that there's an easy out 6 months down the road. :) Takes a lot of pressure off things. But then also it's an exciting gamble! What if he stays and its a great 6 months? So many possibilities. Fun!
We had good conversation and then we moved our bar stool date to the pool table. He said he sucked and then shot like his first 7 balls in! I was like dayum! But then, somehow I followed that and did just about the same thing. He ended up scratching on the 8 ball when I only had 1 ball left. So it was a good close game. I won the 2nd game but barely. We both sucked that game and took us forever to finish.
I was starting to feel the drink I was drinking towards the end of the date because I noticed I was blabbing. Also, I noticed during the date that I stumbled on a few words. Mostly because I was actually attracted to BC. Funny how that works. At the end of the night he walked me to my car and grabbed me by my hand. He had nice strong man hands. It made me feel secure. I liked it. No kiss goodnight. I probably wouldn't have said no if he tried. But it's always good to have a little more to go off of before you have a first kiss.
Oh and the reason I'm calling him BC (Bro Country) in the first place is because he actually likes bro country music. We bonded over that. There's just something so sexy about a man that appreciates the same music as you. He kind of looks like a bro too. Great smile. Nice Style. Broad shoulders. ha ha. Aaaand. I have a feeling he might like Donald Trump. :( I could tell he was strategically avoiding the subject all night. But that's something I'm willing to find out on a second date.
Speaking of 2nd date. When he got home he messaged me and said he'd love to go out again. And then ACTUALLY suggested a date on the calendar for it. Men, take notes. He didn't say, "wanna hang out sometime?" But he actually suggested the date on the calendar. Love that. So even though he might come across as a little bro-ey and there's a slight chance he likes Donald Trump (please say it isn't so!)... I'm looking forward to exploring if there's more chemistry there or not. Should be fun!
Woo! An actual successful date! Not bad, world! Oh, he suggested Sunday but I'll be wine tasting with my family that day. Hopefully it doesn't get too crazy that day and works out, but if not, to be continued how it plays out... :)
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