BE YOUR CRAZY SELF
Well, I’m still single. Womp womp. I had a really exciting encounter though In REAL life NOT from online… It was a little over a month ago. I was working on a film project with some friends and this guy kind of came up out of nowhere. I had met him once before on a project but thought he was kind of quiet and wasn’t even sure if he liked me as a person. I had zero romantic interest. This last time we worked together something felt different though. We had fun banter that by the end of the weekend turned very flirty. “You’re devastatingly charming” he would say to me. And, “If you keep that up I’m going to propose to you.” He was sending the vibes and I was receiving them if ya know what I mean.? 😉 lol
After we wrapped the project we went out to a bar as a group. We had drinks and played darts and the flirtation continued. I felt very comfortable with him and had fun playing darts and brushing hands on each others backs, etc. At the end of the night he gave me his number and I called him right away to make sure he had my number. We said goodnight. It was a very fun flirt! I was feeling very excited and I haven’t felt that in a long time. He seemed like a great guy. We have mutual friends. We have a lot in common. He felt respectful. It was what could potentially be a good start to something. We’ll call him, Camera Guy.
I had a date planned the next weekend with someone else though. I was somewhat excited about this date until I met, Camera Guy. Then all I could think about was how I preferred the date to be with Camera Guy. But, as my friends suggested I needed to see this date through and keep my options open in case Camera Guy turned out to be a dud. I agreed. It was best to see this through.
The following weekend we had our film screening. I hadn’t heard much from Camera Guy during the week but he did send me a picture text from Halloween in Seattle and we kept it light. I was cool with that. A bunch of us met up early for the screening for a drink and me and Camera Guy stayed behind for a drink together. It was a great time. We went over to the theater and found a seat and ended up getting snuggly and more flirty and I just felt really comfortable again, and was letting loose having a great time being in the moment. As we left for the night he walked me to my car and kissed me. It was awkward. I went in for a 2nd kiss hoping it would be better, but was almost more awkward lol. Shoot! I still felt like there was potential though. We texted that night after we got home and he was telling me how amazing I was etc.
As the week went on, I figured I’d hear from Camera Guy if he was as interested in me as he seemed, but I didn’t hear anything. Something felt off. He seemed super into me in person, but then it was radio silence. I asked a couple of friends if that was weird. And eventually decided to make sure I wasn’t playing games and gave him an opening. I decided to reach out and text him. He texted back, but it was short and took him a long time to reply. Even a day later one of the times. At this point, I’m feeling disappointed. And disappointed in men in general. Why go out of your way to make a girl feel special just to let her down? So frustrating and disrespectful.
Turns out as I had to find out from a mutual friend, that he had just gotten out of a serious relationship the weekend before we worked together. UGGGHHH. So annoying that he wouldn’t tell me that. And that I was being used as a rebound. My gut was telling me something was off when he wasn’t as interested outside of in person, and my gut was right. Trust your gut ladies. And dudes, be more respectful of women and their time/emotions. Just be up front. End rant. 😊
Mooooving on… I’ve been back online dating on Bumble. It’s a tough world out there. I’ve met a few people in person. I was at the coast a couple of weeks ago for work and met a guy for dinner before driving home. Trying to be spontaneous. I thought maybe I’d get a room that night if things went well and spend the next day with him… but the second he opened his mouth I knew I wanted to leave as soon as possible. He was just really dorky and there’s no way I would have ever considered a date with him in real life. So, good for him. His pictures didn’t look bad, but you just can’t tell the way someone is in person by a picture. They can be the most awkward person in the world, or the most charming person in the world and you’d never know until you meet. Pictures can be deceiving.
The other night I met this really cute guy online. He was a dad of a toddler and said he wanted more kids. Score! Had a huge bright smile and just seemed really fun. He was from the Dalles, so it was going to be tough to meet for coffee. He suggested that we facetime. I thought that was a really genius idea. Why not?! We scheduled to “meet” when I got off work. I called him via facetime and when he answered something felt off. Turns out he had been day drinking all day. Red Flag, BUT I thought it was funny and he still seemed cool. We chatted about anything and everything for a few hours. It was really fun! But by the last hour he was telling me how he always chats for girls for a few hours and then they never call him back. Asking me what he would have to do different to get me to call him back. Then, he kept telling me how beautiful I looked and how he wished he looked better and kept trying to find a different angle on the phone. It was a huge turnoff. He was SO insecure. Which was too bad because he seemed to be a good catch!
The next day I texted him and let him know that my gut was telling me that I just wanted to be friends. He said no problem and I didn’t hear back. I thought that was the correct reply. About 5 hours later I got a text from him telling me my gut was wrong and that he felt otherwise. I contemplated this, because I really did have a nice chat with him other than the insecure red flags at the end of the conversation. I told him I’d be willing to meet him in person to see if there was a connection, but that wasn’t good enough for him. He proceeded to tell me how lame I was for that and that I needed to commit to only seeing him, etc. I haven’t even met this dude and he was going off on me about how he was trying to “win” me back. Dude, you never HAD me to win me back lol. It ended up being a shit show so I just couldn’t deal and I blocked him. Some of y’all are real crazies out there. Ha ha. But you know the weird part? I would prefer a little crazy then no emotions at all and being fake. Be your crazy authentic selves. It’s refreshing… just don’t be too crazy! 😉 Moral of the story… keep trusting your gut. It wasn’t wrong. It’s never wrong. 😊
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