It's officially been two weeks since I had my last "first" date with the sexy lumberjack. He's actually not a lumberjack lol. He's a Fish Biologist, but for my blog sake I'm still gonna call him Lumberjack, cause "Fishy" doesn't sound as sexy. ha ha.
Two weeks. That's it? WTF. I've done more with him in the last two weeks than I did my entire last relationship. I am just over the moon excited to see where this goes. Like, I literally want to cry thinking about it. Blame my IUD on the hormones if you want, but I'm legit really stoked. I don't even know where to begin to fill you in at.
Last we spoke (I wrote), We had 3 solid ass dates. right? Or had we only had two? Shoot. I don't remember. I'm going to go back and look at my last blog. lol. ...
Okay. So we made it to date #3 last!
What have we done since then? Well that Saturday (last Saturday) he went with me to the Wiener Dog Races at Oktoberfest! He helped me on one side with Harri. And that was so fun! My step Dad was there too and we all watched the weenies race and drank a couple of beers and it was super fun. After that we went to a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party that my sister was at. So that's two family members in one day. Check! I thought it was only fair since I'd met his grandparents! Oh wait! I forgot! We stopped in to see my Aunt at the bar she worked at in between the weenies and the party. So that's 3 family members in one day. Got him! And really, if my family doesn't love you, it's going to be really hard for me to love you. Not that it couldn't happen, but I trust my family, and if they don't love him I have some things to re-evaluate. So far so good though!
Sunday I had my Internship Interview so we didn't stay out too late Saturday night. Sunday I got the Internship and then met up with my sisters at a Park with my dog, Harri. And Lumberjack had a spare minute and was close by so he stopped in to say hi. He briefly met my other sister and her kids and then we were all leaving and he gave me a kiss goodbye. Which I totally wasn't expecting and ended up giving him my eyeball to kiss. ha! But I remember thinking how sweet it was that he was that confident to go in for the kiss right in front of my family and for only knowing me for Not even a week at that point! Good work Lumberjack! ;) Later that evening we met up for dinner and had wonderful conversation. Dinner ended and we didn't want it to end so we went for a nice stroll around the neighborhood. What an incredible first week!
Going from seeing each other for an entire week basically non-stop, we went to not seeing each other all week. He had to leave to Astoria for work all week. And I was back in school. It's hard to run off to the beach when you have other obligations. But we did really good at staying in touch. Chatted on the phone for hours in the evening. Texting a lot. Just really solid communication. That's one thing that I really love about him. He matches me at communication which is really difficult to find in a partner. So aside from his sexy lumberjack physique, his mind is just as hot.
We were literally texting mid week last week while I was taking a bath. And I was looking at my phone and saw that I still had Tinder on my phone. Honestly, after our first date I put both my Tinder and my Bumble profile to "hidden" so only people who I'd already matched with could contact me. And anyone who did, I told them it was too late. Since I was telling other guys it was too late, I figured I check in with Lumberjack. I said something like, "should I still be on Tinder?" lol. And then he was quick to say no. That he didn't want to date anyone else and that I was all his and he was all mine. And it felt soooo good. And so yeah, we are now exclusive. I don't know if that means he's officially my boyfriend or not? I don't think it does. But ladies, back off! ;P When he asks me, I will obviously say "F Yes" Like that article. You know that one that's always circling around that says don't date someone if you can't say "F yes" that you want to. Because if it's not an "F Yes" it's an "F No." Yep. I'm officially that article. :)
Okay, so it hasn't been all rainbows and butterflies. A mini storm blew in. So, the week was great, even not seeing each other. And then he got back in town Thursday. The day before he asked if he was going to get to see me. So I told him my availability and that I would love to squeeze in at least a warm embrace. Well Thursday night hits and I haven't heard from him all day. I'm off work at 9pm and I text and say, "hey did you make it home okay" And then he texted back that he "fell asleep" right when he got home. Oh boy. I've heard this before. I mean, I can't expect too much from someone I'd hardly known for a week. So I'm beginning to think maybe he's not as interested, which is fine. But I just like to be kept in the loop. Again, big fan of communication. And I probably wouldn't have looked into it so much if he wasn't communicating with me so well this entire time. So I felt like something was up. So it was a little awkward. Then we only texted that night. And we'd spoken on the phone every other night before that. So not hearing his voice, just gave me the Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride vibe. Like the eye contact had been lost and I was getting ready for my sprints!
Come Friday, I still have no idea what the vibe is. We've only texted. And I'm just not sure what's in his head. Or what's in my head. But I was definitely in my head about things. Like the reality was setting in I've only known this guy for a week and a half now. You can't expect too much. And just try not to be too disappointed. But you know what, I was at an "F Yes" all week and to hell if I'm not going to make some effort here. I worked Friday all day and when I was done with work I had to go into the computer lab to work on a project. Open lab was until 9 pm. So I asked if he wanted me to come over after I was done and I could just say hi for a little bit. He said yes, but again it didn't feel too enthusiastic over text. Turns out the lab closed at 8 so I thought he would be excited about seeing me sooner. I picked up the phone and called him and told him I was done earlier if he wanted to see me sooner. Literally his voice was so monotone and so unenthused. It was really adding to the fuel of me feeling like he just wasn't feeling it. I pressed on and I met him at his place. This was my first time there. So a new environment was already a little intimidating. And we had an amazing first week and then hadn't seen each other. Decided to be exclusive. But there was just this white Elephant in the room.
I think we watched shows and kissed a little and snuggled. And it was nice. But I was kind of backing out in my mind a little bit. I must have built this whole thing up in my head to be greater than it was. And we just laid there in silence for a bit and I stared at the ceiling letting my mind take over in all the wrong ways. lol. I finally spoke up. I'm not sure why. And just let him know that I felt weird and why. And he said he knew something was up. And that I threw him off by wanting to come over earlier. He wanted to shower first (even though he knows I LOVE smelly man smell... don't judge). And he realized that he didn't sound very excited when I called. So it took some talking out of feelings but I left his place feeling pretty good that night. Not in my head as much. Just happy I was able to get it off my chest and not feel judged for it.
I went home and got a good nights sleep that night and snuggled with my pup, Harri. The next day we were planning on going to a wedding together. I went to my sisters house at noon and helped watch her toddler while she got ready and then Lumberjack met me at her place at 3pm. We went to the wedding and it was really lovely. My other sister and her kids and my brother in law and his parents were there. And he was just there hanging so well with all of them. And I just really enjoyed my time with him. We then went to the reception where my sister locked her keys in her car and he was super helpful and drove me to her house to pick up her spare keys. And we drank, ate and were merry all night. Even sang a little karaoke. He was just so cute and so darn sweet. And we even got into a few little tiffs where he was pushing my buttons and I was being stubborn, but he always came back around to me. And I just really enjoy our conversations and interactions. He pushes me a little which I like. He asked me if I was out of my head yet, and I was. Without a doubt. I was right back there in it to win it with him.
Sunday (yesterday) I had obligations with two sets of friends. So he joined me. We got happy hour with one of my very best friends in the world with her Hubby and baby and then some other close friends. My besties hubby and him hit it off and were having a bromance which was really cool to see. Then we met up with a really close friend of mine and her bf at a sports bar to watch a football game. We chatted it up with them and I got the thumbs up there too.
I'm not gonna lie, I'm super smitten and excited and want a future with him. And life is so short. Why not go all in? I'm all in. <3 That's so crazy to say that. But I just know. I'm not going to rush and do anything too crazy. I think feeling this way is enough crazy for two weeks. I still want to get to know him more and have so many adventures together and build a foundation. But if this keeps up, I'm going to be one happy lady for a really long time... as long as he's cool with all the wiener dogs I want. Working on it. ;)
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