NYE... it's the big date night. The night that EVERYBODY and their mom wants to smooch someone. So last we left off I was over Silver Fox. I was excited for our "romantic" dinner and movie night lol and then was totally bummed when he decided he was tuckered out instead. To his defense I was sounding a little wishy washy... not a lot... so this is only a little... like the tiniest amount possible in his defense... ha ha. But I really just wanted him to want to take me out and was already disappointed from the lunch offer. So instead that night I met up with another guy that I talked to ages ago on the dating site Bumble. We had stayed friends on Social media and have never met up, so since I was already all dolled up I didn't want to waste my effort and stay in. So instead met with him in the movie parking lot, shared some wine, sang our hearts out to T-Swift and we saw a movie. Good movie. Good times. No romantic spark. I want to say that was Tuesday when that happened.
Fast forward to today, Sunday and a lot has happened in that time frame. Just the fact that I was reeling so hard from being dissed by Silver Fox I realized I actually am kinda into this guy more that I'd like to admit. It's one of those things that I think I (and most people probably) enjoy having the upper hand in the situation. We want the other person to be just a tad more interested so we hold the cards. But you know what? Life is short... and it's actually more fun when the deck is split 50/50. Keeps ya on your toes. Either that, or it just gives you a whole lot of unnecessary anxiety lol. I digress.
So. I want to say it was Wednesday maybe when I was SO done with him. Over it. lol. But then it got later in the day. And My stubbornness started to let up a little. My Aunt sent me this text about how she read my blog and how maybe I was being a tad too harsh on Silver Fox. And I told her. Nope. No way. I deserve better. And then about 20 minutes later I texted him. Ha ha. So funny how our minds work sometimes. And I actually felt kind of bad for being so harsh. So I just put it out there that I was basically a little butt hurt about the day before and why. He apologized and said he must have read me wrong cause he didn't feel like I was super into it and he was really tired but now wishes he would have rallied. It was nice to hear. Amazing what a little communication will do haha. And to my defense I was literally 2 seconds away from my period. If that's TMI you probably shouldn't be reading my blog. ;) I'm also on new birth control... an IUD, and I've had it in for only 2 months now so my body is still adjusting to all of the new hormones. Probably not the greatest time for a guy to be trying to get to know me. Ha! Got eeeeem!!! :p
So we have a brief text chat on Wednesday and I told him he can either call me so we can discuss (not fun to text something like that) or we can hang soon. He opted for the hang. Honestly, I can't tell if I like that or if it frustrates me. It's a little of both. Like I'm glad we're getting more face to face time then text/phone time. But when we're not face to face the lack of phone/text time is so foreign to me. It's kinda old school. Which is cool. But at the same time, I'm not sure if it's flaggy or not (as in red flags). Most people like communication through text these days. And we DID meet on an app where texting is what you do. I'm not complaining yet, because like I said we do get more face to face time than most kids these days when getting to know each other... but it's something I'm keeping my eye on... So Anyway, Thursday morning (the next day) I was going to my sisters house for a late family Christmas get together. Her fiancé's sister was in town too so it was a nice excuse to see everybody. That was a 9am brunch and I told him I'd meet up with him afterwards.
Got to my sisters a little after 9am and Bloody Mary's were being made. That sounded excellent. A little lube before meeting with Silver Fox. Peeerrrrfect! Well one bloody Mary turned into a mimosa as well and laughing with my sister, her fiancé and her fiancé's sister. We were the last 4 left at the party after the fam and all the kids cleared out and her kid was down for a nap. It was fun. I had a tiny buzz going so I opted to wait a little while to drive to see Silver Fox. You know it's gonna be a good day when at 11am you're too sauced to drive. ha ha.
I probably left my sisters place a little after noon and drove over to Silver Fox's house. He had to run an errand so I hopped in his car with him and we did that real quick. Then we went out to Mexican. I was actually pretty full from Brunch so I wasn't hungry, but why not have a Margarita? ;) When in Rome (Mexico?) lol. He decided to start trying to catch up to me too so he had a couple-a beers. It was the perfect date back after a weird moment. Nothing wrong with a little da-da-da-day drinkin! You know it's funny; Take me out at night and I won't have more than two glasses. But I just love day drinking for some reason. I just get too tired at night. ha ha. #oldladysoulproblems
We had some good conversation at lunch, then we went back to his place (I think that's what happened next lol). And I just remember finishing the afternoon on his couch having another beer, listening to some tunes, with some hockey in the background and a few smooches in between. Solid day! I had to meet up with a couple gf's for dinner that night, so we stopped the day around 5pm. ( I stopped drinking around 3). And I guess between 9am and 3 pm I only had 4 drinks total. So I didn't get sloshed. But I had a decent buzz most of the day!
The next night we were planning on maybe making up for our movie night. I was supposed to have band practice at noon and then family dinner. Well around 10am I get a call from my sister asking if I'll be the DD for her and her fiancé and his sister for a Brewery tour. I drive a party bus already so she thought I might enjoy it. And I do. I like to let other people have fun at my expense. Is that weird? ha ha My bandmate didn't want to join me so we rescheduled practice. So I just thought I'd throw it out there to Silver Fox. We had room for one more. Sorry for another day drinking offer! I promise I'm really not a big drinker! lol. BUT I wasn't going to be drinking anyway. I was driving. So he was in! Sweet! Should be fun. No pressure. It's just my sister and her fiancé and his sister are really chill. Or so I thought... My sister was like oh no, I invited Steve to come and I don't want to cancel on him. And for whatever reason I thought she meant her friend steve, not my step dad! Eek! So now, we don't have room in the car for everybody and it's not nice to uninvite anybody either. But adding my step dad to the equation just put a whole other load of pressure on the situation. And at that point I really wished we were Ubering instead of me driving. I needed the edge off of this situation bad.
I had to call Silver Fox and let him know he's still welcome, but no longer welcome to drive with us. lol. Totally felt bad about that, but I also was taking one for the team for my sister so she didn't have to be the bad guy. He still came which was cool. So when I saw him now it's a group of family and him. lol. Was not really intending it to be that way. And I was completely out of my element. I didn't know how to be affectionate and flirty in front of my family. And we're still getting to know each other. It almost felt so uncomfortable like it was a first blind date and your family just so happened to be there. AWKAAAARD. Would make for some good reality TV though... hmm. TO be continued there... He honestly didn't seem phased by it, but he was also drinking! I was stone cold sober and was pitting out like you've never seen before. You could tell it was a nervous sweat. My whole underarms were soaked when I got home. Ha ha. And there was NO way I was inviting him to family dinner after that. I'm still trying to figure out how all of that happened. I think in a way I was testing the situation. Like if you can't get along with my family or it's not natural... you're gonna be cut anyway and I'd prefer to know sooner than later on that end.
My family liked him. Oof. Which makes this all even more complicated. They never like my bf's. ha ha. And no he's not my bf. Just a guy I met only 2 weeks ago that I've sucked face with a few times and day drank with lol. Gotta keep this in perspective here. :)
I had dinner with my family that night and then went to Silver Fox's house afterward and we watched 2 movies, snuggled a little and had a nap party. We both fell asleep on his couch and he started snoring at one point. ha ha. I thought it was cute. Ask me in a few months and it might not be as cute. ;) I DID have 2 glasses of wine at his place. I felt it was only fair after he got to day drink all day. I needed to cut some of those nerves from earlier. That was an anxiety attack waiting to happen. Hopefully it wasn't too obvious on my end that I was freaking out inside. lol.
Now we're at today. Oh Saturday I worked and he had a family Christmas thing. So we are planning on hanging out for new years. Trying to keep it low key. He said he might just walk around the block a few times. ha ha. So I guess that's what I'm doing for New Years too. Normally I would have a few drinks on New Years but literally I was exploding at the toilet all day yesterday from just 2 glasses of wine the night before and still struggling a little. Maybe it wasn't the wine and it was dinner. But it makes me really nervous that I might be allergic to wine! That would be terrible! Especially considering the Bachelor on ABC start's tomorrow and that's my favorite beverage with that show! And I'm really not trying to have a blow out on this guy's toilet after 2 weeks of knowing him. Ha ha. WOULD make for a good blog though. ;)
So cheers to y'all! Happy New Year! Be safe! Don't drink and drive! And I hope you get a midnight kiss! Smooches! xoxo
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