Well I had a blog that I had started writing... it was going to be much nicer than this one. The guy that I went out with that Sunday in place of wiener boy. The one who swooped in his place... remember him? We had a great time at the bar dancing and enjoying a beverage and he gave me a nice kiss goodnight. Well since then we'd seen each other 3 more times! That's pretty solid. And I hadn't seen anyone in between him. Nor did I really want to. I was enjoying being interested in just him. And I was definitely interested. We have a lot in common. Both Musicians. Both have an interest in film. Both from this area. He's 39. Wants a family. And on top of it he's tall, sexy and a silver fox. Love me some silver hair on a man. oooh-wee! lol Oh and a great kisser. Definitely sparks there for me. Some real potential in my opinion. It takes a lot for me to be attracted to a man on all levels, so it was nice to feel that excitement. With that being said, I'm 32. I know who I am. I know what I'm looking for. And I know what it's like to be treated right. And unfortunately, wrong too. And aint nobody got time for that!
So let me fast forward a little. I'll save you the details of our 3 dates. But just say they were really nice. Sparks were still there. And we had a magical kiss in the snow on X-mas eve morning. Which I swear was straight out of a Nicholas Sparks novel. You can't make that shit up. And when he suggested we do dinner and a movie Tuesday night (last night) I was actually really excited. I felt like this was kind of going to be our first "real" date. Dinner and movie is reserved for someone you're into. Someone you know you'd enjoy that kind of evening with. Like a couple-y type date. And after 4 solid dates, I was ready for a little more of a romantic date. Maybe have a glass of wine with dinner, maybe a little movie theater snuggles. Just felt like it was going to be a little more intimate. So I was pumped. I wanted to feel closer to him and progress our relationship to a little less nonchalant depending how the evening went. And just FYI that does not mean sleep with him. Lol. But a little more tongue action never hurt anybody! ;)
I'd been looking forward to it since he suggested it. And a couple weeks ago when I was dress shopping for my national anthem performance I found this really cute top (See pic above) and was reserving it for a special occasion. I thought our date night would be the perfect night. I don't know about y'all but I always feel super sexy when I wear something new. It's like I'm a new me. And extra confidence on a date where you're into someone can only be a positive and set the mood for a good night. So I was pumped to wear it. I actually even wore it the night before for a few hrs at Christmas dinner to test it out. Make sure I was comfortable in it. Got opinions from my sister and step sisters about which necklace I should wear tomorrow. Everyone approved and I told them about this date I was going on. I hadn't mentioned much about him yet because anything can happen in a few dates. But after our magical snow kiss on xmas eve I was confident we were gonna have a nice date Tuesday night so I talked about him a little with the fam.
Which makes what happens next even worse... and a little embarrassing explaining that I got stood up. Yep. No date happened at all Tuesday... well at least with the silver fox (More to that story later...)... So let me break it down for you.
It was Tuesday around noon and I hadn't heard from Silver Fox yet to confirm plans for the night. I thought, maybe he's just not good at planning, so I'll help him out. I'm confident enough to not have to rely on a man to plan a date (even though it's super sexy when they do)... So I'll just check in and see what's up and maybe offer a suggestion.
I sent a text around noon asking if we were still on for the night and suggested century 16 theater at eastport plaza because Tuesday happens to be there discount movie day all day! Only $5.75 for a movie all day and night. Score! There was only one problem... when I texted him he told me he forgot he had band practice that night. from 5-7:30 or something like that. Which is right during dinner time... hmm... that's a little annoying but we could still work around that and have a nice dinner after and a later movie... at least that's what I was thinking. And then he asked if instead of dinner we could just meet right at that second for lunch and catch a movie before practice. Really, bro? Here I am excited to have a romantic dinner date with you and instead you ask me to lunch. With no time to prepare because you double booked and you want me to be super flexible with you and be ok with just being squeezed in between your plans. Now I don't know how y'all would feel about this. But It actually really hurt my feelings. And I felt like it was disrespectful to my time. And then I got to thinking that he knew he had band practice when I texted him so he very well could have messaged me as soon as he remembered and made other accommodations. Like I don't even think I would have gotten the lunch invite had I not texted him and reminded him. So it was super disappointing. I spoke to a couple of friends about this. I didn't know how to respond. And I didn't want to respond upset because that never helps anything. So I let it sit for a little bit and agreed that we could play it by ear that evening because I wasn't ready to commit to going out with him after being disrespected. But I also knew I would probably let it slide this ONCE because we're all human and I would man up and get a positive attitude and be ready for our date that evening.
Fast forward to around 7:15pm and Silver Fox texts me asking me what I was thinking. At this point I was ready to go. I had showered and dolled up a little. Put my cute top on. Had let some time pass to get over the initial let down. And I was ready to have a good time. Of course I wasn't going to put any pressure on him because I wanted him to want to see me, naturally. So I gave him multiple suggestions. Said we could just do the movie since it was past dinner time. We could grab a drink before the movie so we would have time to chat. Or if he was hungry we could just grab dinner and I could just hang since I'd already eaten... But I was ready to be flexible about it... And the last option was to reschedule if he wasn't up for it. And out of all of my suggestions that's what he chose. Said he was "tuckered out" from the holidays. Burn. I literally had to hold back my tears. Maybe I'm a little more sensitive than most, but they were real feelings nonetheless. After already being let down earlier to a double let down, I was just done. Feeling defeated a little bit. I wanted to just have a drink, honestly. By myself...
I instead decided to not let someone else's decisions ruin my night. I got on FB messenger and messaged a guy who I had matched with on the Bumble dating app over a year ago and we were FB friends. We both dated other people since we matched and never really thought much about it. But recently he has been hitting me up and asking me out. And it just hadn't worked out yet, so I thought I would just reach out to see what he was doing. Literally the night before he messaged me to go out Tuesday and I told him I was going out with someone else that I was pretty interested in and excited. So I explained how disappointed I was that I got stood up and he wanted to make me feel better. And I was okay with that. I said, meet me at the theater with a bottle of wine. lol. So that's what he did.
We'll call this guy old school. Since I met him a while back. So old school met me at the theater a half hr before the movie Jumanji started. We went to buy our tickets but it was sold out. So we decided on watching Father Figures instead. With an hr to kill now before the movie started we went out to his car and I got to vent about what happened and he told me how beautiful I looked and how guys that respect you and are into you don't do those sorts of things. So I felt a little justified in my feelings. And we honestly had so much fun. We blasted Taylor swift songs for the next hour and had a sing a long where we both knew all the words and it was hilarious and just what I needed all at the same time. Absolutely no pressure.
So we watched the movie. And it was quite good. Funny and heartfelt. And overall good!I'm glad I didn't let something crappy ruin my night of fun and dress up! lol. During the movie Old School was holding my hand and leaned over to kiss me at one point. It was nice but honestly I just wasn't ready for it. I was still reeling from the disappointment from the other guy so the timing unfortunately was off for him. And I didn't feel a romantic spark with him. Hell of a good guy though. I would totally hang out with him again on a friend level. And really he was my angel last night and made me feel really good when I was feeling pretty crummy. So now, I'm kind of over Silver Fox. Super bummed about how it all went down. But when people show you who you are you have to believe them. And my counselor has been telling me that my gut is never wrong. When you see a flag, listen to it. Trust yourself. And yes, I'm seeing a counselor. I think everyone should. It's such a healthy thing to do! Speaking of, I'm off to go see her right now. Hope everyone had an amazing Christmas with their friends and family! Looks like there will likely be more up"dates" to come! :)
Dallas Brown is a pop country singer song-writer livin the dream!