I was proposed to today. By Letter. Not something I was expecting... at. all. A lot of emotions came over me, but the pressing one was that the question came about 15 years too late from him. Also, not the way I would have imagined being proposed to for the first time. I love watching the Bachelor and the Bachelorette and I'm a big fan of the idea of love at first sight. There's even a new show on ABC that comes on after the Bachelorette called "The Proposal" Where there's like 15 contestants and they narrow it down to two and then One person proposes or gets proposed to. It's actually quite exhilarating and romantic and I think it would be fun to be on a show like that. :) Don't judge!
As you all know, I do the dreaded dating sites because I suppose it's the thing to do in 2018. But let me tell you, its rough. The other week I matched with a dude. We had a good initial conversation that wasn't just, "Hey how was your day?" with a "your comment has been liked" back. Now that the dating apps are giving the people the option to like comments, that's about as far as the interaction is progressing lol. SMH. Anyway, this guy and I were having a solid conversation. He looked cute from his pictures and I was into it. Then he asked me about my schedule and I mentioned that I was busy. Cause aren't we all?! But I let him know that even though I was busy I would do my best to make the time for a partner and hopefully involve them in some of my busy schedule. And he all of a sudden got really defensive and talked about how he didn't even want to bother putting the time into someone that's busy. I felt like I was on the defense and having to explain myself. He started telling me that he didn't want to date someone that only had time when it was convenient for them and that he has a life too. It was really odd because in no way was I implying that I wouldn't try to make time to be in my partner's life too and that compromises would obviously have to be made, but he took it as if I were totally into myself because I have a busy life. It almost seems as though everyone online is on the defense and nobody actually wants to put any effort in. And a lot of days I feel the same way. It's turned into more of a way for a chance to get arthritis in my thumbs more than anything. To the Left!
For those of you that online date, and for myself, I think a lot of the reason we do it is for convenience. It's really hard to make connections in real life with other singles when we live such busy lives. Especially if we want to keep our work/professional relationships just that. It would be SO convenient for me to date someone that I already hang out with, or work with, or run in the same circle with, but I really don't want to mix business with pleasure. And like I said, I'm really big on the idea of a love connection at first sight. When I meet the man of my dreams I want my heart to be pounding so hard that it hurts. Not interested in getting coffee as a first date to really have to think hard about whether or not I want to progress to a lunch date. ugh. lol.
I've been entirely busy lately but I had a couple days off between spring and Summer term at school so I decided to try to set up a couple of dates. I went on one in the evening and grabbed dinner and then another one the next day for lunch. And both were, meh! Both guys were nice, and good looking, but really quite boring. And neither wanted a family. Where are my outgoing, charismatic, handsome men that want a family and are not duds? You're probably on my next vacation, cause you're definitely not in Portland. Where should I go to next? I'm craving my next adventure!
Dallas Brown is a pop country singer song-writer livin the dream!