Now that the weekend has come to an end, I should have had my first date with the trump lover but he totally ghosted me. For those of you that don't know that term, it's when someone just disappears. It's as if they're a ghost. Just stop responding or communicating all together with no explanation. And I try really hard not to do that to other people, but when there's 100+ guys sitting in your que it's really easy to accidentally do. So shout out to all of the guys out there I've ghosted! M'bad!!
This weekend ended up being crazy busy anyway. I worked Friday night driving a party bus, Saturday all day I went wedding dress shopping with my sister, and Sunday... well... what did I do Sunday? I feel like I did something that morning but can't remember for the life of me. Regardless... It was Sunday evening... oh wait! Yes, it was my other sister's birthday on Sunday and we went and saw the movie, Coco. I think it's Pixar? The cutest movie you will see in a long time. Surprisingly super good. Highly recommend. And as a musician and someone chasing their dreams it was also super inspiring for that! :) Go see it!
Anyway, where was I at? Right, so Sunday was going to be a good day for me. The reason being is that I took a shower. lol. Well, a bath actually. Basically, I got ready for the day which in the winter months is never a guarantee. I just want to stay in my warm pj's all day snuggling my wiener. But I had some mascara and lipstick on for the day, so that was a score! And bonus points, jeans! So since I already was ready for the day I figured I might as well go online and see who wants to date me! ha!
I went on to Tinder and posted that I was looking for a date for the evening. And in all honesty it's probably better to go on the dating sites at the time you DO feel like going out, otherwise whoever you've just "matched" with will likely get lost in the crowd.
I made my first match with someone who was chatting me up. We'll call him Wiener boy. lol. He basically was telling me how obsessed with my wiener dog he was and that he wanted to meet us! And asked when he could take my boy, Harri to Tin Shed. Now if you don't already know, Tin Shed is the best place in town to take your pup! It actually has a menu for the dogs including a desert menu with homemade dog ice cream. It's a treat. And the outdoor seating is completely closed in with heaters! So when he asked me that, I thought he was definitely the one for the night. I was so impressed with how much he wanted to include Harri. And we started making plans for the night, but he only wanted to go anywhere that was right next to his house. Said that, "Tin Shed would be too packed tonight." I was hearing a lot of excuses but trying to just go with it because I was feeling spontaneous. And about to meet with a brand new match instead of one of the 100's in my que. So finally we picked a spot, and it was close to him. I was willing to make the drive... until he spoiled it. I said, "Wanna just meet there?" And he said, "Sure, it's not far for me." Ok... well if the only reason you're willing to meet me tonight is because it's not far from you. You're getting cut. Scissors are coming out and you deserve to be ghosted. I said, how about a rain check? And he was so quick to jump on the "Sounds great!" Don't be so excited to cancel plans with me! Gah! lol. Then he said he basically was just excited to meet Harri but he'd settle to meet me. ha ha. I mean, I can hardly blame him though. Harri is pretty great and better than humans. But at least fake it! We sent a couple wiener dog gifs after that and that was that...
So I was literally ready to call it a night. And about two seconds away from putting on my sweatpants when I got an inbox message on my FB. This guy had added me on FB about a week and a half ago. I couldn't tell if he added me from a site we had potentially matched on or if he was adding me because we were both musicians in town (He's a drummer)... and We had been sort of just shooting the breeze for the last week talking about music and what not. We were supposed to meet up for coffee to "talk music" so I think I just sort of assumed it wasn't a date. And that he was just networking. Which I'm totally down for because I'm in the market for a permanent drummer lol.
So anyway, he hits up my inbox and tells me he's free Monday or Wednesday day. And unfortunately I had already ditched out on him this weekend for emergency wedding dress shopping for my sister. I figured, I'm not going on a date tonight so I asked, "what are you doing now?"... He was in Sellwood area I think and was totally cool about picking a spot between us (maybe a little closer to him but I didn't mind cause it was at a place I'd been wanting to check out.) We went to Landmark Saloon. It's a place that has some classic old timey country music nightly. So I've been wanting to check out the scene for a while!
I showed up and he bought me a drink right away... and I was thinking... ohhh... this guy is actually pretty cute. And tall! Allllriiiiight. ;) I had some type of vanilla flavored beer. It wasn't bad. And we started chatting about life and family. And it was good conversation. But I still wasn't thinking too much about it. And wasn't sure if we were on a date or not. That is until I got up to pee and he blurts out loud to the band that we're on our first date! Ha. Okay! Thank you for that! At least we can be on the same page. He had a couple more drinks than I did, but I wanted to stay sober and just try not to have any beer goggles on.
I could tell he was feeling a little more loose. Not sloppy or anything but he was reaching over and touching my arm and shoulder. And I was actually into it. The physical touch felt nice but not over the top. At the end of the night he asked me to dance for the last song. He wasn't good. ha ha. But he was still really cute about it and enjoying himself and that was really fun! and I made him dip me at the end! Good times!
The band finished up around midnight and we called it. He walked me to my car and made fun of it for the ducktape holding it together. Said, "REAL classy!" But I'm pretty sure he was being playful about it... at least I hope... eek! He then gave me a hug and went in for the kiss! And I didn't deny it. Again though I hadn't been drinking as much as him I wasn't feeling as loose. But he was a good kisser. We didn't tongue or anything but it was really soft and gentle and quite nice! :)
He said he was going to try and make it to my show Thursday night, so I hope he does and doesn't end up ghosting me. From going from not thinking I'm on a date, to having a pretty rad date I'd say my Sunday was a win! I would 100 percent see this guy again. OH! And to give you the back story. I went back on Bumble and saw that we matched on the 7th of December and had a nice brief chat and so it made sense that we were on our "first date." But guys, literally that's how easy it is to not know who you're talking to on these sites. So please don't be offended for being ignored or for a little bit because until you make a deeper impression it's really hard to remember 100+ strangers! No offense!
Dallas Brown is a pop country singer song-writer livin the dream!